International travel can be exhilarating and there is no time when I feel sexier than when I am in a foreign country. A big part of this is because there is something about your novelty that draws inhabitants of a place to its visitors, so you get a little more attention than you do when in your regular environment. I also find the anonymity of being in a city where nobody knows you quite emboldening. I tend to make more direct advances and generally find myself unusually aroused all the damn time. However, one must always be careful. Even in places known for their liberal approaches to sex and sexuality, each place has a more nuanced subculture, which one can only be attuned to after a few days. Here are a few travel tips that I have found make travelling as a gay man easier.
App your way
There are more free dating and hook up sites and mobile applications today than there are decent men. Get on one and upload a nice picture. Do not be so uptight. Nobody knows you there and if they do and they find you, then they are obviously, of the same kind so shag them and tell them you took pictures, which you will leak if they ever squeal. At a small extra cost, you can upgrade your app memberships to access more functions like filtered searches that make your search much more productive. I found Grindr, Tinder, Planet Romeo, Scruff and Hornet work best.
Make friends with a local
Before you even start planning your travel itinerary, it is important to strike up conversations on social media and other public forums with inhabitants of your destination country. There are tons of gay groups on Facebook for example in literally every country there is. Chat to a few people and make a friend who within the first few days of your arrival can teach you to navigate their city and its isms. You might even get lucky and get an offer for accommodation, which means, more money for shopping! However, show some independence and do not ask for too much. Black Africans are almost always suspicious of people so hitting up a stranger and immediately asking for an airport pick-up or somewhere to crash will most likely earn you getting blocked.
Use gay friendly accommodation providers
There’s a plethora of options for accommodations that are gay friendly across the globe. There’s nothing better than knowing you do not have to sneak in your date for the night or book a twin room with your partner so as not to raise eyebrows. I’m a big fan of masturbation & blow job which works just like Airbnb except all the hosts are gay or at least gay friendly. Always look out for reviews though. Just to verify their authenticity and rule out homophobe swine. If seeking proper hotel services, look for TAG Approved properties. You can go on their website http://www.tagapproved.com/ and search for listings in the country you are travelling to.
Make the rainbow your friend
A simple bracelet, brooch, or pendant with the colours of the LGBTQI flag is a subtle way to score you some very easy hook ups. Many heterosexual people are not fully aware of the colours’ meaning and the homophobes who do would be reluctant to show open hostility based on colours on a bracelet.
For the more traditional man (like myself), old school cruising is always quite fun. It can be sleazy and sometimes a little nerve racking but a little toilet stall hook up ain’t never hurt nobody. Parks, train station bathrooms, art galleries, spas and bathhouses are often breeding grounds for guys waiting to be picked up. Go grab a coffee or do your thing right where you meet before bringing a stranger back to your place though. Your prey will most likely be a bum with little going on for them so your possessions are at risk!
Take your own toys
Tanzania recently imposed a ban on sexual lubricants in one of the stupidest legislations I have had the misfortune of witnessing in my time. Some countries have a ban on sex shops, while in others; the cost of buying anything is enough to inspire celibacy. There is also the risk of not finding a brand you are accustomed to, so unless you are travelling to countries where sex toys are banned -Saudi Arabia and the Maldives are such examples – it is often best to travel with your own arsenal of tools. Even then, I would still pack what I need because the worst that can happen is confiscation at the airport. Remember to always take your condoms and PrEP with you. When travelling, you rarely have the time to learn the person you end up hooking up with, never mind what their status is, so this is a great precaution against unwanted STIs and HIV.
Find a local LGBTQI organization
Each country I have ever been to has had either a local or international LGBTQI association or rights organization. These places often have health information, legal teams, police contacts and safe houses where one can run to in the event of a threat. Get contacts for these outfits and always keep them on your person. It is unlikely that anything will happen, especially to a foreigner, but it is always better to be safe than sorry. #LetsGetReal.
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