MSMS BUSINESS IN THE CORRIDORS……

It was Saturday one of my favorite days and decided to go out with some of my good friends in town (kisumu) we decided to visit anew joint which we were told is commonly loved by female and male sex workers. We left to he joint at 9.00pm the joint happened to be along a busy street in kisumu next to commonly known pub for female sex workers from allover the country.

On arrival we were welcomed by some men who took us in and made sure we were seated and got us drinks to take. From the entrance there was normal business happening out and one can not tell there is a pub inside because from the main door their is a shop where people buy normal household good but if you proceed through corridor there is a nice restaurant where people drink and have fun.

There were not very many people as the pub seemed to be accommodating particular class of persons we realized there were many white men,Indians and Arabs community than Africans it was on this that my curiosity rose and asked our host why so? he said this is joint where msms are linked to the top rich guys in the city and either have them for dates or commercial and that one had to be frequent client for such arrangements to be done.

I could tell it was indeed a high class place e looking at the kind of drinks that we were offered. our host Benson (not his real name) told us most msms who are in the closet love this joint because they meet high caliber gays who end up taking them away from Kenya to their own mother lands. He gave me a list of ten msms who in the last year traveled abroad with their boyfriends.

I asked why female sex workers were also in the same joint and Benson said they played big role as they were used as coverup for people who did not know the kind of business that runs there and again they at some pointy met with men who loved having men so they could link them up and earn their commissions for any deal they made we had fun and promised to go back again and again.

Benson confessed to us that through his going to the joint he managed to open boutique in town where he sells manes attires and can pay his bills he said he has met several good supportive men who brought him that far on asking if he could link us to the friends so that we could also invite them to our health talk forums that we do through our organization KASH (Keeping Alive Societies Hope) he said he was more willing to come with his friends but was worried about the clients whom he said are not blacks and are not ready to be identified.We left the joint at 2.00pm having had fun and met different races within that short time frame.

MSM biz in the corridors(last Line)

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MY DATE WITH APROFESSOR…..

It was a day that had my usual time to relax in one of the pubs in kisumu commonly loved by kisumu msms i took rest after long week end in same. As my nature i like sitting at the far end of the place to enable me watch all that happens in the place as you usual i saw a man coming towards my seat and said hi to me and went on asking if am the one he was looking for in the pub at first i almost said yes as he looked rich and much more organized than the usual guys i ever see here but again said what if he relies that he would hate me for no a parent reason and told him am not and that was out to have fun just like any other person.

The man asked for my permission to sit next me and permission was granted then i started interrogating him.You look new here? I said yes..he replied yes you right but work here now am actually professor he said as gave me his job card with all other details to my surprise the card entailed name of a nearby university that i know pretty well. You can always call me when ever you are free he said. so what brings you here i asked him? He said he was transferred to kisumu and was waiting for his new friend whom he had never met and that they met on Facebook before he came.

As we talked he bought me few drinks and after some few minutes the man in question came looking for his friend. So since he had never met this guy he kept sending text messages as the professor replied and when they connected he joined us  at first i thought they are village mates or something but again the boy looked younger than the proffer and could not connect the two as workmates or even peers.As they drink i could get most of the conversation as had already known they had never met before they were talking about their love trail.

The young boy drunk and got drunk fast the old man had to help him to their room which they had booked in one of the nearby lodges from where we were drinking as they went so many questions ran through my mind is it a common habit for this guy to buy young boys drinks and take them with him or what? does he do this to many guys or has specific boy?as was thinking i remembered he gave me his details and in case of anything i could get him traced on my effort to tell the young guy to resist going with him for the first time to his room the boy seemed was so in need of cash which the old man was willing to offer and was too drunk to negotiate for anything..

We urge all the msms who still don’t have peer groups to join some of our health talk groups as in these groups we learn a lot apart from talking about our health we also lias with KASH (KEEPING ALIVE SOCIETIES HOPE) through their legal officer who helps the msms learn and understand their legal rights in the community and how to behave in the society without infringing other persons right i also thought that if the young man had attended any of our health talk session he could not have gone drinking with stranger and with no one to care for him who know if that man had good intentions or not? but later came to realize that the old man loves taking younger boys who he buys gifts and drinks in exchange for sex and the young msms in kisumu love easy come things which puts their life and health at riskImage……

HEALTH TALK

It was police training day in kisumu and being an organization that works close with msms we had opportunity to have some of them invited to the session thanks to to (KASH) KEEPING ALIVE SOCIETIES HOPE ……on our arrival all were ready to get it from the horses mouth and the session kicked off at exactly 9.00am.

We had opportunity for the two presentations from our brothers in MSMs community and when the first speaker stood up this is what he said…i have no re-grates and owe no one explanation as to why am gay..he said. I started sleeping with men when was in high school. I was only having strong feelings to fellow men and this kept growing as time went on during this period i used to engage into sexual practices with fellow male students behind the dark corridors in school this was practiced for a period of time and the number kept increasing i mean the men that i met on different occasions and this was through snow balling method.

As he did his presentation my worry was how safe were they during the sexual act??? And how many if had protection used them in the right was as one would wonder why a student carry condoms to school and to worsen the matter boys school???? Fabian ( not his real name) went on and said it has been a challenge for me beacuse i have been hiding practicing this with other friend and wonder why it should be other peoples business to know how and why i have sex with men when i don’t bother myself knowing them.

At first the crowd went on silent and after gaining momentum they started throwing questions to him. If you were given money can you quite the behavior?? What behavior he retorted its my lifestyle am sick and tired of people after MSMs back to telling them to stop their practices when will they understand that it is what they like and can never change…..Fabien said there are so many challenges that we undergo as MSMs and hope will one day be free men among them he said they are still discriminated in most of the community,suffer rejection when discovered by family members among others what Fabien said that caught me was the fact that their sex trail is chain whereby one get you and passes your contacts to other friends for same and this can circulate even 100 men.

Fabian concluded by saying it was important for people to try and understand them as MSMs community instead of rebuking them all the time he said no one can choose to be what he is not and stick to it he encouraged other peers to join health talk sessions that are organized by KASH organization which he said they discuss much issues with fellow MSMs peers and he also shared that through the same organization he learn t how to negotiate or condom use at all time.

Premature deaths among msms in kisumu..

It was on Thursday when i had a call in the office telling me had just lost one of my best peers to me it sounded a joke as had met him a week ago when went for my health talk session in their area.Kevin (not his real name ) was resident in one of the biggest slum ares in kisumu he loved heath talk sessions and open talk shows and was very vocal,he always advocated for msms rights and was ready to loose his life for same.

Having been known for such a few men in the same area who were also homophobic had wanted to eliminate Kevin unaware until the day he went to have fun in one of the local pubs in their neighborhood. sources said that Kevin was called by few guys who proposed that they go have drink in different joint and he gave in to their proposal having been associated with much drinking.

Before they could go far another group came following him and his friend who came for him fro the drink and was taken out from the motorbike and beaten to death same sources said that the people who killed Kevin claimed he used tom walk with bad people whom they did not want to come out clear about. msms within this are have now loved in fear beacuse this was the third incidence that happened when mob just kill their fellow msms without any proper reason. Kevin R.I.P

DO GAYS INHERIT IT OR WHAT??????

DO GAYS INHERIT IT OR WHAT(After Headline)

A question that led to my findings….

It was during one of my usual activity day and was out in the field for my daily health session which i do have with my fellow msm peers in kisumu county during such session we allow our peers to give us their success stories after discussing our topic for the day. so it was not until during registration of my peers that i realized that there were two brothers who came for the session and so my curiosity arose more…..

Just before i could open my mouth to say a word one of my peer msm looked at me and said i know what you want to ask and don’t worry we are fine and yes it is true we are real brothers he said. we all kept mum as we waited for the story to unfold……the person in question is my brother he is an msm like me and we raeliszed this when we were in high school. how i asked? we grew up in house made up of many ladies we were the only boys we loved putting on women clothes and loved their company at some point our parents were very uneasy but they thought we did that beacuse we were little boys.then what happened beacuse its weir ed to me….i said we grew up like that, went to school and honestly did not know how and when my brother became gay i discovered him when my boyfriend came to visit me and left them in my room only to get them on act….i dint know what to say or do beacuse we seemed to be birds of the same feathers.

How do you cope with that i asked him? we are very easy in fact we are free beacuse we don’t have anything to hide from each other and most of the time share our challenges together the best part of it is that we both enjoy same side of the game thus we can not be tempted to have a thing hahahahahahaaaa.. he laughed it off. do your parents and other siblings know about it i asked him? no! no! no! he lamented that would be the last thing can want them to and even if they did we have achieved what they expect from us went to school and passed and now are working the only thing we owe them is marrying which again is our right of choice.

Do you benefit with the health talk session that KASH (KEEPING ALIVE SOCIETIES HOPE) offers to you as organization i asked? and they said a lot man…… ever since we started attending such we are so aware of our legal rights,we know how to negotiate for condoms thus cant contract sexually transmitted infections kudos to KASH they said.we appeal to all of you who still hide and suffer in silence that we always have health session talks for the msms in the closet running throughout the year in the session you will meet other msms in the closet who are professionals and you will realize you are not the only one hence will live your life to the fullest.

DO GAYS INHERIT IT OR WHAT??????

 

A question that led to my findings….

it was during one of my usual activity day and was out in the field for my daily health session which i do have with my fellow msm peers in kisumu county during such session we allow our peers to give us their success stories after discussing our topic for the day. so it was not until during registration of my peers that i realized that there were two brothers who came for the session and so my curiosity arose more…..

just before i could open my mouth to say a word one of my peer msm looked at me and said i know what you want to ask and don’t worry we are fine and yes it is true we are real brothers he said. we all kept mum as we waited for the story to unfold……the person in question is my brother he is an msm like me and we raeliszed this when we were in high school. how i asked? we grew up in house made up of many ladies we were the only boys we loved putting on women clothes and loved their company at some point our parents were very uneasy but they thought we did that beacuse we were little boys.then what happened beacuse its weir ed to me….i said we grew up like that, went to school and honestly did not know how and when my brother became gay i discovered him when my boyfriend came to visit me and left them in my room only to get them on act….i dint know what to say or do beacuse we seemed to be birds of the same feathers.

how do you cope with that i asked him? we are very easy in fact we are free beacuse we don’t have anything to hide from each other and most of the time share our challenges together the best part of it is that we both enjoy same side of the game thus we can not be tempted to have a thing hahahahahahaaaa.. he laughed it off. do your parents and other siblings know about it i asked him? no! no! no! he lamented that would be the last thing can want them to and even if they did we have achieved what they expect from us went to school and passed and now are working the only thing we owe them is marrying which again is our right of choice.

do you benefit with the health talk session that KASH (KEEPING ALIVE SOCIETIES HOPE) offers to you as organization i asked? and they said a lot man…… ever since we started attending such we are so aware of our legal rights,we know how to negotiate for condoms thus cant contract sexually transmitted infections kudos to KASH they said.we appeal to all of you who still hide and suffer in silence that we always have health session talks for the msms in the closet running throughout the year in the session you will meet other msms in the closet who are professionals and you will realize you are not the only one hence will live your life to the fullest.

What others do ???

mmmmhhh….Saying that i enjoy my field field work is an understatement, i love my job. It’s not my own imagination imagine but what i experience while on duty. It was during one of my health talk session in an area i would term ‘remote’ in kisumu. On arrival at the meeting site, i met a group of ten MSMs who had been waiting for me for about 20 or so minutes… “welcome baba zero,” they said as i walked in. (Baba zero means “single guy” or one without a family). As was usual, there was a small debate on what topic to discuss as each had forethought of their own topics.This time round, unlike other sessions, the debate prolonged. Fortunately, we later settled on MSMs plight in the prison…….During our discussions, two guys who had been arrested shared with us their ordeal. I will call them peer 1 and peer 2 for obvious reasons.

“When i was arrested and charged i thought i would never meet any gay again as most of the inmates were all new to me. To my surprise, during the night while we were asleep, i could hear movements towards the toilets. Out of curiosity i decided to go and see why there was lots of movements. Alas! At first sight, i thought i was sleep walking and was therefore dreaming,  only to realize that i was indeed awake and was watching a live movie of four men having sex…..I was actually not shocked as I knew i had found my place. ‘Are you “kuchu” to mean ‘are you gay’, was their question. Hearing these words made me feel at home as i had just confirmed that these men were real gays, as we know what terms our groups use. We had sex daily for the several days i was confined in prison. My only fear was having unprotected sex. Sadly, after my release from prison i tested HIV positive. Thanks to KASH (Keeping Alive Societies Hope) who intervene for rights of MSMs  and make attempts to advocate for correct and consistent condom use. I only wish i had met them before, only would I be safe from contracting HIV…but again, having HIV Is not a death sentence. I know i have a role to play. Since i joined their health sessions for their health talks, I today know how to negotiate for safe safe sex and I also advocate for condom use. My appeal to the prisons bosses is to allow condom dispensers in the prisons…Only will prisoners be safe from the virus.

What others Do(Last line Centre